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Are you tired of living a life that runs you instead of you choosing it? Until you understand why you want what you want, your inherited wanting will quietly run your life. Grow Your Own Thoughts exists to help people redesign their thinking instead of reacting to it. The Art of Wanting 101 is the lens through which that design starts to become possible. Learn how to choose the life you want.

Most people are taught how to work harder. Very few are taught how to understand what they want.

We’re taught to set goals. Stay motivated. Push through fear. Work harder. Keep going. But rarely are we taught to examine the thing driving all of it: WHAT DO I ACTUALLY WANT - AND WHY DO I WANT IT? The Art of Wanting 101 is a practical, psychology-informed course that teaches you how to examine your wants, recognize what may be influencing them, and make more intentional decisions about your work, relationships, money, goals, and life. Learn to separate what you genuinely want from fear, pressure, expectation, and inherited ideas of what your life is supposed to look like.

Maybe you've done what you were supposed to do.

You've worked hard, set goals, been responsible, pushed yourself & made decisions that made sense on paper. Yet, something still feels off. Maybe you're successful but exhausted. Motivated but dissatisfied. Accomplished but uncertain about what comes next. Maybe you're working toward something you think you want, but the closer you get, the more pressure you feel. Or maybe you've finally achieved something you spent years pursuing—only to discover it doesn't feel the way you thought it would. When that happens, our instinct is often to ask: What should I do next? How do I fix this? What goal should I set? How do I get more motivated? But there may be a more useful question: What am I actually wanting? Because sometimes the problem isn't a lack of ambition, discipline, or motivation. Sometimes the wanting underneath all that effort has never been examined.

A practical course for learning how to want more consciously.

The Art of Wanting 101 gives you a framework for examining where your wants come from, how fear and urgency distort them, and how to make decisions from greater clarity rather than pressure. THIS ISN'T ABOUT WANTING MORE. It's not another motivational course telling you to dream bigger, hustle harder, manifest better, or push through your fear. THIS ISN'T THERAPY. It's about learning to understand the wants already directing your life. Where did they come from? Are they actually yours? What happens when fear gets attached to them? What changes when you stop needing a particular outcome? How might you live differently if you could want consciously rather than automatically? THIS IS THE ART OF WANTING.

THE ARCHITECTURE OF WANTING Understand how wants form and why some desires feel like choices while others operate automatically.

FEAR & DESIRE Learn how fear narrows perception, changes decision-making, and can distort what you believe you want.

URGENCY vs. CLARITY Recognize the difference between an internal demand for resolution and genuine clarity about what comes next.

THE ACCEPTANCE PARADOX Explore why accepting reality doesn't mean giving up—and how acceptance can restore choice.

COGNITIVE FLEXIBILITY Practice loosening rigid interpretations and expanding the options available to you.

THE WEALTH FRAMEWORK Examine how wanting influences mental, relational, professional, and financial wealth.

WHAT YOU WANT SHAPES HOW YOU LIVE

Your attention, Your decisions, Your relationships, Your work, Your money, Your sense of purpose... If wanting influences so much of your life, learning how to examine what you want may be one of the most consequential skills you can develop.

By the end of this course, you'll have a different way to approach one of life's most important questions: WHAT DO I ACTUALLY WANT?

Not simply another list of goals. Not another productivity system. Not someone else's definition of the life you should build. You'll have a framework for examining why you want what you want, recognizing what may be influencing your decisions, noticing when fear or urgency takes over, and approaching your next decision with greater awareness and flexibility. The goal isn't certainty. THE GOAL IS CONSCIOUS CHOICE.

Stop only asking, “How do I get what I want?” Learn to ask, “Why do I want it in the first place?”

The Art of Wanting 101

$295.00

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THE ART OF WANTING 101 MAY BE FOR YOU IF...

You are successful on paper but aren't sure the life you've built is actually the life you want. You're working toward a goal but can't tell whether you're driven by desire, fear, expectation, or pressure. You've accomplished something you thought would make you happy—and wondered why it didn't. You feel pressure to figure out what's next. You're reconsidering your career, relationship, finances, identity, or direction. You're exhausted from trying to control outcomes that aren't entirely within your control. You know something needs to change but another productivity system or motivational strategy doesn't feel like the answer. You're curious about the psychological processes influencing your choices. Or perhaps nothing is particularly wrong... You simply want to become more intentional about the life you're creating before spending more of it pursuing things you never consciously chose.

What if you don't know what you want?

Then you're in the right place. You don't need to arrive at this course with a perfectly defined goal. In fact, uncertainty can be useful. The Art of Wanting 101 isn't designed to give you a predetermined answer, it's designed to give you a better way to explore the question. Because sometimes: “I don't know what I want,” isn't a problem to solve immediately... It's an invitation to become curious.

Meet the instructor: Charity Mills, LIMHP, LPC, CEO

Charity Mills is a licensed mental health clinician, educator, entrepreneur, and executive with extensive experience helping people understand the cognitive and behavioral patterns influencing how they think, choose, and change. Her work brings together psychology, neuroscience-informed education, cognitive flexibility, behavior change, and practical application. As the CEO of Colorado Teletherapy Services & Grow Your Own Thoughts® Charity's work centers on a deceptively simple idea: The way we think influences the way we live. Our thoughts influence what we notice. What we notice influences the meaning we make. That meaning influences our decisions, and those decisions, repeated over time, help shape the lives we create. The Art of Wanting grew from that same philosophy. Instead of telling you what your life should look like, Charity teaches you how to examine the thinking underneath the life you're already building—so you can make your choices with greater awareness, flexibility, and intention.

You are already building your life. Every decision about what deserves your attention, what you're willing to tolerate, what you pursue, what you avoid, what you hold onto, and what you're willing to release contributes to that life... and underneath all of those decisions are wants.

Some wants you chose consciously. Some you may never have questioned. Some may have served you once but no longer do. Some may belong to someone else's definition of success. And some may be waiting for you to finally give yourself permission to acknowledge them. You don't need to stop wanting, and you don't need to want more. Instead, you can learn to want consciously- and build your life from there.